Grief and Sadness over a friend who is dying

Working with those in addiction is, to say the least, a difficult road to be on;  however, those who embrace the Lord Jesus, get healed.  The thing is that those who don’t, die. 

The voice of someone in addiction is silenced by the drugs and alcohol that have them in chains and owns their soul.  If you listen very carefully, you can hear their cries of despair.  Their silent voices are carried in the wind that, if you pay close attention, brushes against your face as they walk by.  Their unspoken words are simply, “help me out of this madness“.  Listen for those words and rescue your friend…your loved one.

I have a friend who really wanted to help kids in trouble and in prison.  He wanted to make a difference in their lives by telling them about his.  He would talk about how he wished he could tell kids that addiction is cruel…it’s a friend for a few weeks and then it becomes your worst enemy that you cannot get rid of.  Working with kids in trouble…that was his dream…all he wanted to do in his life.  The problem was that he was in an addiction he thought he couldn’t get free of.  No one ever mentored him.  No one ever told him his life mattered.  No one held him and said, “it’s going to be alright”…no one!  It was impossible to convince him that his life does matter and that his dream can come true.  My husband and I were going to help him to make that happen.  He just couldn’t make the ‘choice’ to be free of his addiction.  Yesterday, after two emergency hospital visits, he was sent home to die.  His liver has failed.  It’s a matter of days now.  He chose his addiction over God and His way out to freedom.  The world and the 12 Steppers already had gotten to him for years, telling him he will never get free.  They told him the lie they tell everyone seeking help;  they told him he would always be a hopeless addict unable to deal with relapse after relapse and that his ‘disease’ was fatal.  How EVIL!   Because of AA & the ‘Steppers’, I am losing my friend.   AA not only doesn’t work…not only destroys one’s spirit…it’s pure evil from the very pit of hell.

I tried to lead him to the Cross.  That is a decision of choice, not force.  My friend made the wrong choice.  There are many troubled kids out there who will never know of my friend’s love, compassion, wisdom and victory.  Those kids will be missing a great and awesome mentor and precious human being.

Remember that someone in addiction is not a criminal or a diseased hopeless mess.  They are people in despair who have made bad choices to use drugs and alcohol to relieve their depression.  They saw no other way out, so you need to reach out and get them the proper help they need.

My heart, once again, is broken. Father, in Jesus Name, heal my heart so I can get back up and keep walking this road you’ve put me on to help those in the darkness of addiction.

Why the Apathy in Families of those in Addiction? It’s because of the fruitless Steppers!

Our ministry to those in Addiction is all around the world.  I find it especially odd & “sobering” that the town we live in has not only been taken over by Addiction, but, it has been taken over by a spirit of apathy.  Apathy?  Are you kidding me?  The people in this town sit and plan their loved ones’ funerals instead of planning interventions.    Families…wives…husbands…friends here have come to accept that their loved ones will die way before their time.  They have given up.  They refuse to believe that addiction has an end.  I blame the 12 Steppers for this;  they are hopeless, fruitless & repulsive…not to mention their success(?) rate is only between 3% to 5% up to five years.  After that, most all are just back to doin’ what they did before.  We watch & wait for the 12 Step meetings here to end and we see them ban together in their march to the local bar to get drunk and then get high.  HUH?  12 Steppers are the biggest enablesr and the biggest liars of all time.

My last attempt for this town was “Black Monday” on the 13th of February.  All around the US, loved ones of those in addiction were gathering to fly bouquets of balloons into the sky to bring awareness to Addiction.  Black was for the ones who died.  White was for the ones who needed help now.  Yellow was for the sober ones.  Not even one person wanted any part of it.  They are resigned that there is no life once Addiction happens.  They have chosen to plan all those funerals while drinking and drugging their lives away.  Yes…even the professing Christians!




My Bible and my God says this:  “Therefore, if anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation; old things have passed away; behold, all things have become new.” (1 Cor 5:17).  Jesus already paid the price for our sins.  Addiction is sin…a choice, if you will.  Go ahead and do the math.

But those who wait on the Lord Shall renew their strength;

They shall mount up with wings like eagles,

They shall run and not be weary,

They shall walk and not faint. (Is 40:31)

As a highly successful Addictions Life Coach & Interventionist as well as a strong powerful Christian, my motto is;

We work the 10 Commandments…not the 12 Steps!  We see those in Addictions totally HEALED FOREVER.

Jesus breaks the chains of any and all addiction.  Just let Him.  If you’re a loved one of someone in addiction, remember they need to be rescued, not ridiculed.  Have an intervention & adhere to your bottom line.

____________________________________